Life Repair

These days there is no shortage of marriage advice being “sold.” How do you choose the best course of action?

First and foremost, communication is the tool that must be used. And in our “pop a pill”, “try to forget” society, we often overlook the fact that you sometimes have to work at something to make it better.

In a troubled marriage you can’t wish it away. You have to work at it. Whatever you do to get the ball rolling you need to get the dialogue started. Maybe a night out, a walk around the block, maybe just a cup of coffee at the dinner table. How you start isn’t important, it is that you start.

You must also use manners. It is too easy to point the finger and blame your spouse, particularly if things are rough to begin with. But without using manners and being courteous things will definitely get out of hand fast.

Communication is at the heart of the matter for couples dealing with troubles. In fact it has been said that lack of communication itself is what creates the problems to begin with.

Imagine this: What if you could talk to your spouse about anything in the world good, bad and ugly! What if your spouse would simply listen to you, would acknowledge you and allow you to speak your mind- never uttering a mean or derogatory comment and never looking bored or upset.

How would you feel? I’ll bet you’d feel pretty darn good.

Well now imagine you doing the same for your spouse. How would they feel? Would they like you more? Would they be willing to listen to you more often? Would they stand up for you?

Use communication. Don’t shy away from it; it is a tool not an issue!

Couples can love one another and yet find their marriage in trouble.

Don’t drift apart, get together, talk about it. The only mistake you can make is to stop communicating before it is resolved.