Life Repair

You probably have already heard that old adage that we have to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. I think that has some merit.

We all start out life with focus on ourselves and then grow outwards. For example as infants we have to learn how to operate our bodies, how to walk and talk, sit and feed ourselves. As we grow older we learn to interact with our family members and then progress to friends and groups we are part of. And then we start to reach out past those boundaries and start to think in terms of all types of life, all mankind, the planet and so forth.

If you answered yes, don’t feel alone, there are many people just like you. And I know it isn’t easy.

No one realizes really how you feel. How many times have you heard something similar to this?

“Hey you’re (smart, pretty, have a good personality…fill in your own description) why don’t you just go for it?”

They just don’t realize that YOU don’t feel confident or sure of yourself; which is what the problem is. It doesn’t ever really matter what others think, it is how you feel about yourself.

Most people just don’t understand.

Lack of self confidence shows itself in many area of our lives. We see it in our personal failures. We see it in the relationships we never had. Lack of self confidence is unmistakable in the workplace and other social situations too, leaving us weak, defeated and lacking in self respect and self esteem.

The effects are devastating and have long lasting effects. The fact that most people have this problem to a greater or lesser degree doesn’t really help you much when you are kicking yourself for having lost one more opportunity because you couldn’t face up to it.

Sometimes in spite of much outward success, many people still have to deal with feeling unworthy and unfulfilled.

Many feel empty and have a lack of self esteem.

There are also those whose lack of self esteem causes them to fail at achieving their goals and leaves them suffering and depressed. Too many of these good people then end up on heavy anti-depressants and anti-anxiety drugs.

With low self esteem, regardless of material success, you suffer.